Relationships v.2.0

 1/30/10

So I got a call from a friend the other day having some relationship problems. For the sake of anonymity and brevity I will henceforth refer to this friend as MF (my friend) and MF's current partner will be CP.

I must say that CP has been making some pretty extraordinary demands on MF, but I am not going to talk about those today. What has me thinking from our phone call is a tangential remark MF made during the conversation. It went something like this:

"People don't really want to know the truth. They say they do but they don't."

Well, I gotta say, I am a big one for the truth. Otherwise it is GIGO (garbage in , garbage out) and nowhere is that truer than in relationships. Don't get me wrong here. Everyone has some things that they needn't share with anyone. I am not talking about full disclosure, only that whatever we do choose to disclose be truthful. Obviously the more we disclose creates the potential (not always realized but what's life without risk?) for a directly proportional deeper understanding, but that's a subject for another day.

I mean, think about it. What is the point of having friends or lovers for whom you have created an alter ego of yourself based on lies? It's not you they are in love with or friends with then, so what,I reiterate, is the point?

So people, you know where I stand. Expect the truth from me and I will expect the same from you. I don't want to play the GIGO game, and I certainly don't want to waste my relationship time and energies on ghost friends and lovers created by lies.