eHarmony and me... Part 1

 5/7/10

 So a few days ago I'm just sitting around with not much on my plate. It was the 9th anniversary of my husband's death and felt like as good a time as any to take stock of my current state of being.

All in all the assessment went pretty well. I am blessed with my two daughters and some really stellar friends, male and female, near and far. On the downside, all my great male friends fall into the "far" category (thank God I have wonderful girlfriends nearby or I would be totally nutso). I realized how much I miss just having a guy around to hang out with on occasion. I confess there is something about the menfolk I just love.

Sooooooooooo... I fired up my trusty computer and for the heck of it googled online dating. eHarmony seemed by far the safest site so I checked it out. You can do a fair amount there for free so I proceeded. Step one is filling out a rather lengthy, and somewhat silly at times, questionnaire.

 It was a fun exercise since I had nothing else pressing to do. Once the survey is completed eHarmony will start sending you matches.This is where it starts to get interesting. You get the guy's name, city and state and a bunch of his questionnaire answers.I got 5 matches right off the bat. I pondered each one and thought, "Are these really the kind of guys who are perfect for me? And if so, what does that say about me?" It's thought provoking for sure.

If you don't join eHarmony (meaning cough up some cash) you do not get pics of your matches, and you can only contact them once using an eHarmony survey form where you pick a few questions you want them to answer.I have chosen not to communicate with anyone using this method, nor has anyone exercised that option with me. I do think eHarmony is designed more for the younger set which makes sense, but enough oldies are participating to supply me a few new matches each day.

eHarmony is a very PC site, so you don't delete dubious matches, you "archive" them. I have been sent about 20 matches in the last couple of days. Many of these matches make me wonder what mistakes I made on my survey answers ( I have rechecked and can find no big errors). For instance, I was very honest about my weight yet they send me guys who put physical fitness in their top 3 things they think are personally important. I "archive" those guys at once.

I could go on and on, but for brevity's sake I think this is enough for now. What it has done for me so far is really help me clarify what I do want in a man at the moment. Interested...??

To Be Continued...